It is well known that parents must create limits and boundaries for their children in order to teach them these concepts. However, the majority of parents are unsure of how to do the same, particularly in a way that is efficient and fosters strong parent-child bonds.
In this post, we'll discuss how to properly set boundaries for kids using the "connect and redirect" method. Since the goal of discipline is to teach, it can also be used to discipline children.
How does "Connect And Redirect" work?
A useful technique for setting limits for kids is described in the article Relationships matter: How clinicians can promote positive parenting in the early years, which was published in the Journal of Paediatrics & Child Health. Although it is usually used to discipline kids, this technique can also be used to establish reasonable boundaries.
Step 1: Connect
Parent-child connection makes it easier for them to be more accepting of one another. Making a connection with someone else enables them to let go of unhelpful presumptions and incorrect behaviour interpretations. Parents must be aware of how they are reacting to their child's behaviour in order to complete this level. Parents should consider what they are saying and how they are expressing it to their kids. They must adopt behaviours that help the youngster feel more at ease, like going down on their level rather than standing over them and, when appropriate, giving a soft touch and nod. Even when they are trying to discourage the behaviour, parents who address their children's emotions provide them a sense of validation and make them feel heard. Parents can either translate what their children are saying.
It creates a space where both parents and kids are willing to listen and seek out answers.
Step 2: Redirect
Parents and children must be emotionally prepared to listen to each other before redirecting a youngster. This is accomplished by carrying out Step 1, which entails establishing and preserving a connection.
Here are some guidelines for utilising the redirect approach to establish boundaries with kids:
- Use Fewer Words: There is no need to lecture the child.
- Embrace Emotions: Recognize the child's emotions, even if you don't agree with what they did. By paraphrasing or repeating what the youngster is saying, you can validate the sentiments.
- Describe: Use fewer words to express what you want the child to do.
- Involve the Youngster: Find out what the child thinks, or give them a restricted number of options and ask them to select between two equally appealing options.
- Rewording the newly established restriction or boundary with conditions will encourage the youngster to respond "yes."
Simply said, you must acknowledge the child's feelings, lay out your expectations, and then persuade them to comply. This is how you can set effective boundaries and restrictions for kids using the "Connect and redirect" technique. It could be challenging for you to put this into practice at first. You must be consistent, though, or you won't fast become an expert at effectively setting limits for your kids.
What techniques do you employ while establishing boundaries for kids? Do you think they work? Are you eager to give it a try?
